Love and Life

I like the following story very much, which I got as a forward long back. After reading the post bhOndOO proposes, and posting the extract in my blog, I felt like posting this also.



My husband is a Software Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought, with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...."

My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting...and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form...

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND

THAT'S OUR LIFE

A Good Proposal From A Simple Guy

The following is taken from BhOndOO Proposes written by Rupesh Nasre. It is one of the good proposals that I have read.

I thought about it umpteen number of times.
I am not the smartest person you know.
I am not the richest person around.
Nor am I the most eligible bachelor.

I may not be as warm as your parents, but I care for you.
I may not be your best friend, but I respect your feelings.
I may not be the most revered person around, but I am true to you.
I am not omnipresent, but I am always there for you.
I may not know what to say when you are sad, but I will be able to offer you a listening ear.
I may not know how to make you smile, but I will smile with you.
I may not be the best person around, but I will be good to you.

And until recently, I used to believe that I will be able to convince you by showing how much I… how much… I love you.

However, I realized that I am not the only person who loves you so much. All your friends do. Your relatives do. Your parents do. Perhaps much more than what I can.

They all can support you emotionally, financially, psychologically.
They can give you anything you want.
They can make you smile.
They can keep you happy.
They can create the best world for you.

So I have nothing special or more or better to offer than anyone else. Neither more intelligence, nor more wealth, nor more love. Nothing.

There is only one way I can become special.

And I would be special only if… you love me.

Quote of the Day - Communal and Secular Parties

The party which demands for a single code bill for all the religions is a communal party.

The party which introduced different code bills for different religions is a secular party.

Forgiveness of Women

Many people and poets say that, Women have more forgiveness than men. Just few points for food for thought.

If a guy proposes a girl for love or marriage, and if the girl is not going to accept the proposal, then their relationship would be broken except in exceptional cases.

If a man and woman have strong argument in anything in professional or personal life, then their personal relationship also would be effected, and undoing may not be possible in most of the cases.

If the guy has really done some mistake knowingly or unknowingly, which effected a girl, and even if the guy is ready to fix the situation or trying to understand what the mistake that he has done, it is very rare to find the girl who would let the guy know the mistake that he has done, and no need to speak of finding girl who would cooperate with the guy to fix the situation and re-establish the relationship.

With sincere apologies to the women who have forgiveness.

Criticisms For the Followers of Religion

Many times, one has to face many problems, if one says himself or herself, that he/she is a devotee or follow certain religious principles.

If the devotee does any activity which others do not like and it is not considered as good by the general public, immediately, they will say, you are a devotee or follow certain religion, and why do you do like this?

For any rule set by the scriptures, it also mentions many exceptions, where that rule is not valid. For example, the scriptures say, drinking alcohol is not allowed. At another place, it says, it is permitted as medicine. There are many exceptions, where one is allowed to lie. If the person is in danger, then most of the rules are exempted. There are many rules in donations (not exceptions). One should donate only if all the rules are satisfied. Otherwise, it may have negative impact.

If anyone has some common sense and knowledge on the situation, whatever the correct action that they take would be almost equivalent to that of what is prescribed by the scriptures. It is just that, they may not be aware that scriptures support their action.

In few cases, the devotees may intentionally do incorrect things, in case the benefit that they get by the sin is far superior than the punishment they get. In that case, they would accept the punishment happily.

Criticism of why are you doing like this, when you follow certain religion, is not valid. The only difference between those who follow and those who do not follow is, those who follow it, are ready to take the results, others are not.

Courtesy: the people who have criticized me in the name of Lord Krishna for the mistakes that I made knowingly.

By the way, in my about me, I changed from devotee of krishna to aspiring to be a devotee of krishna.